It’s an outdated belief that children of working mothers would be better off if one parent stayed home. In fact, 60% of U.S. adults continue to be that this is true. However, research has proven otherwise. Children whose moms worked actually develop the following lifelong lessons.
1. They’re more successful in their careers.
A 2015 international study from the Harvard Business School found that “Women whose moms worked outside the home are more likely to have jobs themselves, are more likely to hold supervisory responsibility at those jobs, and earn higher wages than women whose mothers stayed home full time.”
Men are also influenced by their working mothers. As reported in “How working mothers inspire their children,” it’s been found that sons display more empathetic behavior and attitudes. “When boys raised by working mothers enter the workforce, they tend to be more supportive of women at the office, more accepting of gender equality and more sensitive to creating a home environment that encourages daughters to excel.”
“What’s more, children raised by working mothers tend to develop social, speech and fine motor control skills earlier as toddlers, in part because they are often socialized in daycare at an early age.”
2. Collaboration skills.
Jennifer Lux writes in Adweek that, “Success in all professions requires the ability to work with a team. No matter how prolific your child’s education, he or she will need to incorporate expertise and feedback from others for long-term success.”
“Helping kids understand the value of teamwork and collaboration begins at a young age by requiring kids to do something simple like chores. As a working mom, you logistically have fewer hours in the day to take care of the home and therefore need your children to contribute,” add Lux.
According to a Harvard Grant study, children “who have chores and pitch in to keep a household running smoothly are more successful in the real world because they recognize needs beyond their own.”
3. Resilience and independence.
During her research for her book My Mother, My Mentor: What Grown Children of Working Mothers Want You to Know, Pamela F. Lenehan discovered that working moms wanted to “give their children the skills to weather problems and difficult situations.” One mother said, “I wanted her to be able to handle anything that comes her way. I wanted her to be resilient. You never know what is going to happen.” Lenehan actually found that 47% “of the daughters with working mothers strongly agreed their mothers had taught them resilience, as opposed to 35% of the daughters whose mothers stayed at home.”
Lenehan also found that “56% of daughters of working mothers said their mothers had been very helpful in teaching them to be independent, compared to 35% of daughters whose mothers stayed at home” since they didn’t as micromanaged.
4. Quality over quantity.
Despite the fact that we spend the same amount of time with children, whether if we work outside the home or not, working mothers emphasize quality over quantity. The main reason is that when we’re spending time with our family we’re completely present. Whether if it’s during our morning routine, eating dinner together, or going on a weekend trip, working mothers make sure that we make every moment count and let our children know that they’re our priority at the moment.
As a result, our children have a better understanding of what’s truly important in their lives. And, to ensure that there’s a healthy balance, develop stronger planning skills so that they can handle both work and personal obligations.
What lessons do you think you’ve taught your children as a working mom?